One of Age of Attraction‘s contestants, Vanelle, has the best of problems – having to choose between men. One is Jorge, a big personality who’s opposite her peaceful energy, and Justin, a man looking to have children. They are three of maybe two dozen people in Pemberton, British Columbia, looking to find their true loves. Natalie Joy and Nick Viall host Netflix’ new dating reality show where these people get to know each other. They also teach each other about cultural touchtones maybe lost to time, like Madonna and the Spice Girls.

These contestants reveal everything except that none of the contestants can reveal their true ages until they enter the Promise Room. Some couples don’t have big age gaps. Others, like Derrick and Pfeifer, are, light spoiler alert, 43 and 23. The couples with the biggest age gaps get to move to condos to see if their ages or personalities are a fit. And then, the Vialls fly the contestants’ family or friends. Will those people be comfortable with the age gaps?

This reality show has the same differences from those within the sub genre – similar in that there’s dressy elegance. It’s also a very outdoorsy sweater core show, also the second time this month where I’m seeing Canada look so green. I’m thinking of a lot of reasons why American productions are choosing Canada to shoot their reality shows. Cheapness is a factor has been for two or three decades now. But I guess Age of Attraction shows the first green flag for these contestants is that they’re allowed in Canada.

Age of Attraction‘s contestants, as I previously wrote, get to live in condos in, wait, is this Vancouver!? The show makes Vancouver look like Miami, or maybe it’s because most of the latter episodes take place indoors. Here, viewers get to see the outside of doors, letting us listen on who is or isn’t having sex. It also shows us pillow talk, which is where these people show the red flags that we’ll judge them for. Or couch talks, where Theresa compliments John on how he’s wise beyond his years in dealing with things. Whether or not she matches his maturity is another issue.

One of the reasons viewers watch shows like Age of Attraction is to see which couples crash and burn. But it feels deeper than that, even if reality TV mainstays like the Vialls are hosts and not producers. I’ll give them the benefit of the doubt that they want their contestants to go through better than they did. Natalie Joy and Nick also have an 18 year old age gap and maybe they hosted this show to reduce stigma. I don’t feel this stigma because we millennials didn’t. But being on the other side of that age gap is different. Nonetheless, reality TV works as a warped hall of mirrors, showing an aspect of these contestants that they themselves probably overlook. And speaking  as a pro age gap millennial, the show captures why these contestants are bridging the age gap, sometimes not in the best of ways.

While Age of Attraction‘s hall of mirrors effect makes some contestants look bad, it’s positive on others. If I was a betting man I’d bet against Andrew and Libby but so far, it looks like I’d lose money. I pegged Libby as an aloof Gen Z-er but Andrew’s calming, dry presence brings the maturity out of her. Mature Andrew, by the way, is my age, and some of Libby’s friends said that he needs botox.

The botox remark makes me want to walk to a lake. I don’t ever want to sit across the same table as a 22 year old psychology major with great makeup it will kill me. But back to Andrew and Libby. If they survive the rest of friends and family day is another question that one can answer by watching the show on Netflix. And by going through Reddit I find out that one of the five couples definitely don’t survive.